Coming of Age in Poland

Why do some Polish birthday cakes look like this?

It’s all because of what a Polish girl can expect to receive on her 18th birthday. She will get cake. She will get gifts. And she will get… spanked!

The event will feature the usual energetic and enjoyably uninhibited interaction between participants.

At some point, the birthday girl may find herself being ceremonially tossed in the air.

This may not be altogether consistent with her dignity,

or her modesty.

But towards the end of the festivities, she has an even less dignified experience coming to her!

Although it involves the administration of eighteen whacks, this isn’t just a routine annual birthday spanking with one for each year and one to grow on: it’s a rite of passage, part of how a teenager comes of age in Polish culture. It’s called pasowanie, a word which has two different literal translations, both of which are meaningful and relevant. Historically, it referred to a man’s induction into an order of knighthood, and nowadays it is used of a young child’s formal entry into school as well as the moment when an eighteen-year-old passes into adulthood. The ceremony of making the new knight entailed fastening a sword around his waist, and the name for it refers specifically to the sword-belt, known in Polish as pasek. So pasowanie is also, specifically, belting.

And yes, it does often involve the use of a belt…

Time now for the birthday girl to assume the position. But which position? Different parties, and perhaps different regions of Poland, follow different traditions. Some girls bend over a chair.

Some lie prone across a bank of chairs.

Some are restrained in other ways.

But many find themselves in the old, familiar position used for spanking since time immemorial.

Occasionally the owner of the lap involved makes it perhaps an especially familiar position for the naughty girl turning eighteen.

Mom and Dad have also been known to collaborate in daughter dear’s birthday sendoff:

It’s not at all uncommon to find more than one party guest getting in on the act.

Multiple participants are especially helpful when there is more than one birthday girl to deal with:

But ultimately it is always a fundamentally communal activity.

Whether the birthday girl is over one person’s lap, several, or none, it’s eighteen different party guests who line up to spank her.

Approaches to the exercise vary between individual spankers and different parties. Some administer a purely symbolic tap on the bottom. Others make a big show of winding up to land an almighty wallop, and then pull back at the last moment. And some really don’t hold back at all…

To show the range, here’s a useful comparison at a birthday party in 2019, where it appears that the (in my eyes) better-looking girl is having the worser time of it.

So this means that some Polish girls will finish their birthday parties like this:

How do you think they feel about it?

You might be surprised to learn that they don’t mind a bit!

Well, it is traditional. And in some cases, it may also have something to do with another common, and prudent, pasowanie practice. You will often see a coat or some other protective object placed in the small of the birthday girl’s back, to protect her kidneys in case a blow with the belt should ever land off target.

It’s not unusual to see the protection drift southwards, giving her some defenses directly over the target area.

And occasionally it goes lower still,

which helps to guard against one of the other hazards of pasowanie, albeit one that shouldn’t unduly worry a girl who has been tossed.

Some girls prudently wear trousers or a long dress to their birthday parties,

but most prefer a pretty party frock,

even though that’s not always the most practical choice to be spanked in, let alone tossed.

You can expect the layers to billow with each enthusiastic blow.

So part of the job of the person who has her over their knee is skirt management.

Some girls opt to do it themselves,

which is perhaps wise, because it seems not all friends can be relied upon to keep a girl’s hemline under control.

But let’s not forget that Poland is in Eastern Europe, which means that, from time to time, there are entirely different ideas about what to do with a skirt during a spanking.

There are rumors that some Polish communities go even further than this, but they are obviously hard to verify (the presence of cameras tends to inhibit even a panty pasowanie), and it could well be nothing more than the wishful thinking of nudity-fixated fetishists. And in the end, who needs it when the spankings that do happen are as good as this?

This sort of customary event generates a lot of online videos and I can only offer a selection of the better ones, presented as a block of links. As usual, it’s best to look at them a few at a time or you may risk getting bored, and that would never do at a birthday party!

2010, 2010

2012, 2012, 2012, 2012

2013, 2013, 2013


2015, 2015

2016, 2016, 2016

2017, 2017, 2017, 2017, 2017, 2017, 2017

2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018, 2018

2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019, 2019

2020, 2020, 2020, 2020,2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020, 2020

2021, 2021, 2021, 2021, 2021, 2021

Happy birthday to them all!

10 thoughts on “Coming of Age in Poland

  1. Chris says:

    Loved the post, including the extensive links at the end. As a “spanko” myself, I have enjoyed seeking these “fun” spankings on YouTube. I have about 15 more pasowanie links not listed, if you’re interested. Here is a short one:
    Of course all of mine are female as yours are. For our bros who like male pasowanie, the links, and intensity, are significantly greater!


    • Harry says:

      Yes, please, put the others in the comments and I’ll add them to the ones I already have in a follow-up article I plan to run later this year. (Note, however, that my principles of selection favor OTK.)


      • Chris says:

        Ok. I too favor OTK, but unfortunately none of these are OTK. I tend also to favor impact, as well as length. Since I don’t know how to edit the link so that it loads straight to the pasowanie section, I include after each link where to scroll to reach the section of interest (unless the spanking starts right away). Enjoy, and post according to your principles.





      • Harry says:

        Thank you, Chris. What I’ve done is to remove the ones I’m going to use in the main article, leaving the rest here so that people don’t lose the opportunity to see them too. But remember, folks, the cream of the crop is yet to come!


  2. Chris says:

    You definitely saved back the best for your future post :-). Thank you for your efforts at blogging about our peculiar interest. I’ll keep checking in, and if you ever want to make a similar collection of other “fun” spankings on youtube (like birthday spankings or Heart Attack Grill paddlings) I may be able to contribute as well. Enjoy all!


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